Losing weight and keeping it off isn’t easy, and one man just opened up to Reddit about a breakthrough he had.
“I've lost 14kg, and I been just chillin here, with 80 or so more to go for quite some time,” user UpOwlNight writes. “So why do I fail every time? How can I do so well for so long - feel real clarity that I no longer have a problem—that I'd never fall back in to the same unhealthy habits, just to give up?”
Now, UpOwlNight says he’s figured out why. “It's so weird to me, that after I admit it and accept it, that I realise I've always known I was lying to myself,” he writes. “I tell myself I can do it fast.”
The Redditor says he reads recommendations that people should strive to lose a kilogram or two a week and writes them off because he thinks that will take too long. “I always think I can kill it at the gym, or skip a meal here or there, or completely give up drinking and knock this fat thing out quick,” he writes. “I simply cannot do that. Eight years have proven it to me, and countless failed attempts make me realise how silly it would be for me to fall down that same insane rabbit hole of three hours per night at the gym, and 1,800 calories per day.”
I just had this really sad realization that the only reason I haven't reached my goal weight after 8 years is because I have been fighting doing this the "right" way.
Yep. I've lost 30lbs, and I been just chillin here, with 80 or so more to go for quite some time.
So why do I fail every time? How can I do so well for so long -feel real clarity that I no longer have a problem -that I'd never fall back in to the same unhealthy habits, just to give up? Time after time after time, the same cycle, in different time spans, give or take a step or two. Each time I wait for that exact moment of buildup. I wait until I have enough reasons why I want it. I wait until I have a long list of things to remind myself why I'm not going to give up on myself this time. I create meal plans, failsafes, and sacrifice time to go to the gym for hours. I am in control and on top of the world for a week, or maybe a month, maybe half a year. Then I burn out.
As the title of the post says, I have figured out why. It's so weird to me, that after I admit it and accept it, that I realize I've always known I was lying to myself. So here's my lie. My trap, my delusion, my problem. I tell myself I can do it fast. I read the 1-2 pound a week stuff and think, no way, not me. That is way too long and discouraging. I always think I can kill it at the gym, or skip a meal here or there, or completely give up drinking and knock this fat thing out quick. I simply cannot do that. 8 years have proven it to me, and countless failed attempts make me realize how silly it would be for me to fall down that same insane rabbit hole of 3 hours per night at the gym, and 1800 calories per day.
I'm not saying I'm not going to try again, I'm just saying I'm going to try something I've never tried before; One pound a week. I don't know what happened, maybe the 8 years is weighing on me harder, but 52lbs a year doesn't sound so bad. 30lbs a year doesnt sound bad. The only thing that sounds bad is going insane again for 4 months at the gym, and suffering and starving myself, and having insane ups and downs that I'm cured, and that I'm not cured, and then giving up, and gaining it all back.
Also, the first line of this was another lie. I didnt lose 30 and maintain, I lost 40, and gained back 45. Time to reset the flair and stop lying to myself. Time for some good old fashioned CICO and patience. I feel really good getting this all out, and I'd love to just delete it all, but I'm going to post it anyways. Thanks for letting me get this out. I'm open to advice, or if someone wants to start a buddy system with me hit me up. Here's to another day 1
In the comments, people shared stories of their own struggles and words of support. “Good post buddy! I fully support your plan and think its smart,” one commenter writes. “Slow and steady is a great and safe way to lose weight.” “My man, that was exactly the realisation that led to me finally making real sustained progress on losing weight,” another adds. “You can do it too. I won't lie and say it will be easy, but doing it this way is definitely easier. Get after it, bro.”
Experts have long said that 1kg a week is the most you should be losing to set yourself up for sustainable, long-term weight loss. Cutting out entire food groups isn't great either because it's more likely you'll fall off the wagon and overindulge, which doesn't get you anywhere.
If you’ve been struggling to lose weight for a while and aren’t getting anywhere near your goal, maybe it’s time to take a page of out this Redditor’s book and get real about what's holding you back. It could get you farther than you think.